Building Capacity 2 Inner Strength By Regina Moore

Building Capacity 2 Inner Strength

In building capacity 1 we discussed how to put good foundations in our marriages to build upon. Today we want to build inner strength. How can a woman handle delicate situations like broken engagement, divorce, run away husband, the death of a child or husband, difficult in-laws separation or job loss; whatever the enemy throws at you.

You might say we are Christians and this is not our portion, I believe with you 120%. The other side is we live in a real world even though we are not of this world. Bad things happen to good people and we sometimes don't know how to explain it. Having a heart desire to mature as growth focus women, instead of allowing depression into our lives and carrying the repercussions of a broken heart all our lives, it is of utmost importance that we learn how to build inner strength for storms of life.  

You may wonder why she did not break down after the separation; she is still smiling even though the engagement was called off; standing tall after being left at the altar on her wedding day or losing her job, somehow, she manages to continue despite the calamity remaining rational within the situation. The first thing to help clear our minds of the shock is to understand that these things happen in life, there is nothing new under the sun, no new problems only new solutions. You are not the first neither will you be the last.   Don't think that you've sinned or are being punished by God for something you have done.sometimes it is none of these. If you feel like crying, cry. It doesn't make you less in any way, it is normal to cry.

Now pick up yourself and do the following:

Talk to God before you talk to any TRUSTED person.   Come before Him with all the pain, heart ache and disappointment. Throw them at his feet Jesus said ''Come unto me all you who are labour and heavy laden I will give you rest'' Matt 11:28. Weep before God if you want to. As you stay at the altar release your pain and He will exchange it for His comfort. He will turn your sorrow into Joy, give beauty for ashes and the oil of joy for mourning. Though your weeping may endure for a time, rise from that place of prayer and drop every burden. PLEASE! Don't take it back with you leave it there with Him. Next wipe your tears and talk to a TRUSTED person.

You will notice that you can now relay your story without much self pity as you are now just asking for a listening ear not a pity party.   Keep a clear head and don't dwell on the matter day and night. Don't allow the thought to get a complete hold of you, or be drowned in the issue so that no one can help you up. Try thinking of other positive areas in your life. Pay attention to the way you look and don't allow your image to go down for everyone to notice your issues on your appearance. Go for walks, enjoy nature, take fresh air and try not to be alone all the time. Attend social invites, get involved in a charity or learn a new language or a desired instrument. Pour more love into your kids.

I wrote my first book during a stormy time in my life and Women's Power Hour started after I had a car accident. Turn your pain into gain; turn your mess into a message for others. Allow God to make you. He is the author and finisher of your faith. Don't blame God or people. Remember that all things work together for good to them that love God and are called according to his purpose. ROM 8:28 If you keep a good heart after a storm, you will continue to get better not bitter. The dark clouds and veil will be uncovered and you will understand why it all happened. As the Lord will definitely show you. The most important thing is to fellowship with God in worship and in prayer where you will receive grace, strength and oil for your journey.

The word should not depart from you. In it you will find all the hidden reasons and wisdom for your storm. Allow God to show you don't be locked up and angry. Always remember that God loves you even in your situation. He will never leave you nor forsake you. He is your strong tower and when you run to Him you are safe. Now go and be a strong woman of God. You are more than able to come out victorious. God bless you.