Before you get into serious dating and making a life long decision kindly listen to this. Its not wise to meet someone then go straight into serious plans for marriage without taking into consideration your due diligence. It is suicidal to marry without finding out things that will prepare your mind and help you decide for a life time.
Many sisters are afraid to find out about a guys background where he is coming from, his family, tribes culture if you are from the African setting where there are different tribes and cultural heritage, traditions and customs . Sisters fear to do this because they worry if they find out negative things they might loose the guy. They fear they night not meet someone too soon. The fear of being single thinking you will be lonely and you might not get married till God knows when.
You might decide not to find out. Your decision not to find out will come back to you in a more serious way with threat to stay or break up your home later SO FIND OUT NOW! To avoid potential break up set up do your due diligence, so you can know something's before deciding on a life long decision. To start your due diligence process, clear your mind and be open don't be narrow minded or biased, don't pre judge and don't decide too soon.
When a woman is in love she becomes a fool and behaves a little stupid. You must clear your head of this buzz and cloud 9 feelings and butterflies in your stomach. So that you can think clearly if not you will not see anything correctly. If even it is said to be black you will call it grey because you are in love. You can even call white black because love covers a multitude of sins. Open your mind to be able to judge clearly before deciding.
Some things you will try to find out are yours to decide what you want to know. These are pertinent things tn addition to your own list. Family back ground; type of setting, their lifestyle choices, belief system, their spiritual standing, do people go mental, is there a dominant illness or do they die suddenly or at a particular age.
You need to know a little bit about their culture, traditions and customs. Can you flow into them? I remember when I started understanding the Yoruba culture of respect for older people than you, I saw it as slavery that the younger ones always have to serve the older. I did not like it. I also did not like the kneeling down or bowing it looks like human worship to me. These were cultures I had to deal with if I want to stay married to this Nigerian guy.
To be continued
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